The Difference Between Wanting To And Being Ready To Love


BY Funmi Aboderin||


One thing I have realized through personal experience and my observation of people is that God is responsible for your happiness.

As humans, we love the idea of love as its part of our nature, but sometimes we fail to understand the difference between just wanting to love and actually being ready to love.

When you just want to love, the idea of having a significant other makes you happy, having someone to share stories with, spend countless hours talking to and even taking cute pictures together. Just knowing that there is someone out there that cares so deeply about you overwhelms you with joy.

The constant exhibition of public display of affection between couples, that we see both on social media and in real life fuels this idea of what ‘perfect love’ should be like. This ‘perfect love’ portrays a relationship of constant happiness with no…

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My Grown-Lady Shopping Rules

I absolutely loved this post from A Pretty Penny. It was just the push I needed to clean my closet that I have been saying I would do since last September lol

Keira Lennox

Since the day I learned to dress myself, my style M.O. was to “look cute.” (I’m not saying it was always successful; there was a very unfortunate JNCO jeans phase in my adolescence). Now that I’m getting older, that’s shifted to “look polished/sophisticated/put-together.”

A year ago, I purged my closet of all the bad shopping decisions of my twenties. It was one of many closet cleanouts; I’d spent years in a cycle of buy-wear-toss and couldn’t figure out why I was never satisfied with my stuff.

During that Labor Day 2013 Purge to End All PurgesI got the moment of clarity I so desperately needed: the trick wasn’t filling a wardrobe with a whole bunch of random inexpensive stuff; it was creating a well-edited collection of great stuff.

For so many years, I equated good style with having lots of options and never wearing the same outfit twice. So I…

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Hello Heels,Goodbye Pain

Hey guys its been a while. I missed yall 🙂 This is a quick post about heels. The higher the heels the higher the standards right lol. Well I don’t know about you but I loveeeeeee me some high heels. Unfortunately with my schedule I don’t get a chance to wear them as much. But ooooh baby when I do, I have the time of my life. Well until you know that pain hits. You ladies know that pain I’m talking about. The kind that starts at the toes and works its evil self throughout the entire foot. Usually leading to numbness or the horrific duck walk. Not the military duck walk but the walk the women do at the end of the night when there superpowers start to wear off and they start limping to their final destinations because their feet hurt lol.

Well have I got a remedy for you!!!! And it involved zero skill and one ingredient. Its tape! Yes tape lol. (Preferably medical tape the color of your skin tone of course but any tape will do.)Tape your 3rd and 4th toes together (counting from your big toe first) and viola you are done!

Sounds crazy huh? Well let me explain the logic behind it. There is a nerve that splits between those two toes, which causes pain when pressure is applied. The tape removes the strain on the nerve allowing you to walk like the Victoria  Secret Supermodel you were born to be. So try it out and let me know if it works for yall. It has worked wonders for little ole’ me. Well until next time ttyl you sexy beasts lol.


Raspberry Peach Lemonade

peach lemonade

Hey Guys and Happy Second Day of May!!!!  Things are starting to heat up. So most importantly  try to stay intoxicated, I MEAN HYDRATED lol. This is a quick virgin tutorial on a Summer inspired EASY TO MAKE drink that is also nice  for entertaining. ***FYI if you actually want to make this into a cocktail add 6 ounces of your favorite white rum. I told yall in my bio I’m a  Lemonade Connoisseur  😉  Let me know if you like it (after you try it of course lol). So let’s get started!!!

First the ingredients:

  • 1/4 cup agave nectar
  • 6 ounces raspberries
  • 3 medium peaches, sliced
  • 1 cup freshly squeezed lemon juice

If at all possible try to get fresh fruit it tastes so much better and refreshing.

Now the instructions:

  • In a medium saucepan, combine 1 cup water and agave over medium heat until the agave has dissolved, about 1 minute. Add raspberries and peaches, and simmer, stirring occasionally, until raspberries have broken down, about 5 minutes.
  • With the top cap removed, combine raspberry peach mixture in a blender until smooth, about 1 minute; let cool completely before straining through a cheesecloth or fine sieve.
  • In a large pitcher, whisk together raspberry peach mixture, lemon juice and 5 cups water. Place in the refrigerator until chilled.
  • Serve over ice and raspberries, if desired.

Enjoy 🙂


This recipe was adapted from


According to Aristotle, Friendship is a single soul dwelling in two bodies. (That’s one of my favorite quotes by him.) Friendship is a very beautiful thing, and from my experiences it is very hard to find. It is also very subjective. If we were to ask a hundred people to give their definition of a friend, its a big possibility that you would end up with 100 different answers. (Get my drift, very subjective).Now down to the main reason of this post. WE ARE ALL ADULTS (for the most part). We all have a general idea of what friendship is and how it works. HOWEVER, as we get older it becomes harder to maintain certain friendships, and even harder to make new ones. So this post will serve as a crash course 101 to give you a few useful tips.

1. Boundaries- We are not children anymore and a lot of people have significant others,  families, careers,school,demanding  schedules, and this list could go on forever lol. So you have to respect others boundaries in order for the friendship to grow and continue growing. And for heaven’s sake don’t call your friend all the times of the night. Im sure his or her significant other or family wouldn’t like that.

2. Jealousy- its ok for your friend to have other friends. Never let a person make you feel bad for having more than one friend. Adults tend to have different categories of friends, for example :PTA Buddies, drinking buddies,workout buddies, church buddies, childhood buddies, and the list goes on and on.Also watch out for signs of possession.

3. Don’t put your friends in vulnerable situations- they are your friends not your body guards or your scapegoats. Don’t get me wrong lol the truth hurts. Always be honest to a person you care about no matter what and if they can’t appreciate that then TOUGH. Im so grateful for my bff Julie because she “keeps it real” even when I don’t want to hear it lol. That girl ALWAYS has my best interest in mind and I couldn’t ask for anything more.

4. Try to be there for the important things- I get that we are busy hard working adults but the smallest things make the biggest impact. Always try to be there for the person you care about regardless to if you are there in person, spirit, etc. One of my good friends lives 13 hours away from me but whenever I need her she is always a phone call away, and if she cant pick up the first time I call, she still always calls me back. No matter how busy or tired you are it is no excuse not to wish a friend a Happy Birthday or offer your condolences after they have lost a loved one or someone they cared about. Nope not acceptable. Now somethings are understandable you can’t always be at every get together,party, baby’s first step, or award ceremony , etc but at least make an effort. And always I repeat always TRY to make the important stuff for example graduations, weddings,etc.

5. Don’t be afraid to call it quits- It takes courage to walk away from things that are toxic and bad for you. Always remember quality or quantity. Its better to have 1 amazing friend than to have 100 bad ones. And please don’t be afraid to leave a harmful situation because of history or length of time. You owe it to yourself to be happy. Its going to be hard but if that friend isn’t fulfilling you, or bring positivity into your life, or lifting your spirit, then you need to call it quits.

Sidenote!!!!!!!! This isn’t by any manys a complete list. So if you feel like Ive missed a few things or didn’t quite touch on enough areas please let me know. I’d love to hear from you guys! Soooooooooo my question to you is “What is your definition of a true friend?” (Comment below)

Spring 2015 Healthy Challenge

Hey guys, I hope everyone’s day is off to a great start. My day is going well. It is 7am my time and its safe to say that I have been up all night. (I worked graveyard shift last  night and I’m still here waiting on my relief person). Anyways I decided to make a quick post about my Spring 2015 Healthy Lifestyle Challenge.

I officially started this challenge on April 7,2015. It basically consists of me not eating after 9pm, consuming smaller portions of fully balanced meals, cutting back on fried foods and salt intake,drinking a lot more water, and cutting back on junk food and sodas, and last but not least a 30 min workout at least twice a week. My goal was to create a very realistic and achievable regiment that could incorporated into my hectic lifestyle. Some weeks I work at least 70+ hours a week while going to school full time. I also wanted to leave room for flexibility and growth. Eventually I’d like to incorporate more workout days.

Obviously one of the main reasons for starting this challenge was to become more healthy and live a better lifestyle. A few other reasons for starting was:

1. get a flatter tummy (swimsuit season is fastly approaching)

2. lose my back rolls (for some of my more form fitting clothing items)

3. tone my entire body (I do not want to lose weight, again I repeat, I DO NOT WANT TO LOSE WEIGHT)

4. increase strength and flexibility (I’m sure my cowboy would appreciate this one just kidding lol but seriously it would be a tremendous help at work and clinical rotations)

5. have clearer skin

6. have more energy

7. feel better overall

So Im currently 9 days in and man this stuff is HARD. Im going to upload my before pictures I took on April 7th, and post pictures of my progress along the way.My best friend Julie recently joined me on this challenge as well. I will post her progress also. So wish us luck. Feel free to join me and/or offer helpful advice and encouragement. Well Im off to class.

-xoxo Fancy Nancy